Wednesday, December 17, 2008

Japan's hosts

Take a look at a real host club's website and tell me: which one of these guys float your boat? Why are they all femme men with a few tops thrown in? What does that say about what we women secretly want in a man?

I saw a great documentary called The Great Happiness Space: Tale of an Osaka Love Thief. Preview below.

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It is exactly as the title suggests: these are men who make a business out of making women love them and prolonging the illusion of love. These host clubs serve thousands of women each day who spend anywhere from US$300-5000 each visit. It's these sad and empty dreams that this business is built on. Cross over the bridge in Osaka to the Minami district and you will see that this is serious $$$$, baby.

Anyway- what's wrong with real men?
PLENTY of real men in Japan with shoulders that you could build a house on, you know what I mean?

From left to right: Matsuoka Masahiro and Nagase Tomoya.

More eye candy? Why not?

I am married to an Alpha-male type but more often than not, I choose to be in the company of my fag(s). Maybe it's because straight men just love to keep on affirming their superiority to women. Especially insecure men who aren't really Alpha-males, but like, rilly, rilly-wanna-be?

It's something to write home about if you've made it in this world (yes, this world is all about the dreaded evil $$$) and yet don't feel the need to actually write home about it.

We were a young married couple the last time we walked hand in hand through Kabuki-cho in Shinjuku. We thought that these male host clubs catered to men only, being just adjacent to Shinjuku-ni-choume. Yes, I was a fag hag back then in 2003 too.

We've decided to spend our Christmas and New Year holidays in Tokyo and the Kansai area in Japan, the land of the washlet- damn I love bidets.

*There are days I'm glad I had a c-section.*

Gross out time over!

This time, we'll be the young-ish couple in their 30's pushing a rather cool akai bara bugaboo stroller- See you there! Happy Holidays sans nanny? *shudder* We'll see!

Sunday, December 14, 2008

Miss World 2008

OK. When I had some time to myself (my 4 month old has 2 hour naps) I watched Miss World 2008. I used my Foxtel IQ to record the broadcast on Arena from Johannesburg, South Africa.

In the beginning, as each country's representatives are introduced, I chose my favourites.
As usual, as luck would have it, none of my favourites made it into the finals.

I haven't got one guess that hit the mark since I chose Oxana Federova in 2002. Remember her? Miss Russia, who was crowned Miss Universe 2002, was then asked to give up her crown after a rather short stint.... It was her empire-waisted evening gown that convinced me.

Here are five of my favourites, in no particular order:

Miss Ethiopia, Dina Hibret Ferkadu- graceful, elegant. She represented Ethiopia in Miss Universe 2006, so she's got the experience!

She looked like a modern version of what a north african beauty should look like. Arab and African. She reminds me of the legendary supermodel Waris Dirie, back in the day. She also had Iman's grace.

I thought Miss South Africa, Tanzee Coetze was very beautiful- too conventionally beautiful, maybe because she is of mixed blood.

And er, well *cough* halfies always have an unfair advantage in the beauty stakes *cough*...... but anyway- a beauty nevertheless.

Miss Cyprus, Josefina Sekki- natural and athletic.

She's the 2nd from left. Not a conventional beauty. But to me, very natural, very beachy. I love her tan! She reminds me of Jennifer Aniston, who is also another greek export.

Miss Philippines, Danielle Kirsten Muriel CASTANO - I'm picking her because she holds herself with a lot of confidence. It showed.

Very exotic. Very Miss Hawaiian Tropic.

When the britpop boy band McFly performed their first song of their set, where the girls are shown dancing to the band while they're playing, she was totally getting her groupie-ass groove on. More so than other contestants. I was thinking to myself "aaaawww, mannnn- geeez- FIGHT the stereotype, Miss Philippines!" If they showed Miss Singapore onscreen, I'll bet you she'd be doing the same-same come hither thing to those pretty white boys, honey.

Miss Uruguay, Fatimih Davila
- the eyes, the experience....

Not the most beautiful- she was Miss Uruguay Universe in 2006, so it's the experience factor coming into play again- you see? This is like betting on horses. :)

Sorry, but Miss China gets my goat this year.
LOOK at how plastic the boobs are, honey. We all know models and actresses in China get silicone implants just like they get a new pair of shoes. And it seems to be a prerequisite for any woman in front of the camera. But this woman, Yan Ling Mei..... Damn, I've seen transexuals and transvestites in Thailand looking more like real women than her. The girl from Taiwan behind her in the white bikini has nicer implants and a healthier looking tan.

Last year's Miss China, Zhang Zilin, who won Miss World, was stunning though.

This year's militant-out-to-win-it Miss India was no Aishwarya Rai, either. Disappointing.

Miss Malaysia this year was yet another porcelain-ish chinese girl.

Her name is Wincci. What does that tell you already? (Oh God. Is the budget shoe brand now a "prestige brand" that you can now name yourself after? If I see another Malaysian hairstylist/photographer/designer called Gucci/Prada/Chanel Wong/Lim/Ong/Lee etc. I will vomit.)
Why can't there be a better representation of what Malaysian women look like? The Wincci's of Malaysia represents just one facet of Malaysian beauty. There are too many malay beauties out there with smoking hot bods who can give Wincci a run for her money- why not join the pageant and represent Malaysian women? Ah the religion thing always complicates, doesn't it? Not that a problem that other muslim countries like Egypt, Turkey, Indonesia, Ethiopia, Lebanon etc. can't rise above..... but some countries (Saudi Arabia, Jordan, Pakistan) like choose not to have them at all.

Let's dumb it down. Think of it like this: Why sell Char Kway Teow every day when no one is buying? Why not give Nasi Lemak a go on alternate days? It could be the sales boost that you need, know what I mean?

At the end of the day- another Russian won this title.

Saturday, November 29, 2008

Gah we're so cheesy....

Oh Gawd... we did the typical thing that new parents do: we took family photos at a friend's studio- they turned out quite well- I love white backgrounds they're just so CLEAN....

I cropped my face out of one of them and used it as my profile photo.
I now sport a "mommy haircut". :)

Thursday, November 27, 2008

Next election, I want to make history.

I hope the rest of Malaysia catches the "I hold the power to control the future of my country, my vote matters" disease, too- I hope that BN is actually toppled next election.

I live in Australia, but am registered as a voter- I will put my money where my mouth is and come back home to vote. I'm so inspired by many brave Malaysians- it keeps hopes alive amongst those of us who lost it and left.

Australians voted for change when they voted for Kevin Rudd.
Americans voted for change when they voted for Barack Obama.

Malaysians can do it, too. If Malaysia Boleh anything, then boleh vote.

Tuesday, November 25, 2008

Got Maid?

In my inner world here behind the facade, there's been a paradigm shift since becoming a mom just a few months ago. I still make comparisons of my adopted culture (Australia) and the culture in which I was raised (Malaysia)- but I have been thinking of how modern mums take on the task of raising their kids.

In Malaysia, it's fair to say that the majority of kids are raised by maids or grandparents. I do see amongst Malaysian women, more and more smart young execs giving up their high flying careers to stay at home and raise their kids with the help of a maid. Malaysian kids spend half the day in school (either morning or afternoon session) plus extra curricular activities on certain days. Then the rest is taken up by tuition classes and extra lessons.
I saw a 2 month old baby on Orchard Road, at the time, was similar age to my own baby except that the Singaporean baby was carried in a cloth sling by the maid, with the new mum walking alongside (the new mum still looks about 6 months pregnant) together with an older woman (looks to be the granny) carrying a bag bursting with bottles (can conclude that the new mum was not breastfeeding then). This woman had a maid and a mother at home to help. No wonder she looked fat.

In Australia, the number of children in daycare and those raised at home with their mums (with some days in daycare as well) are about equal. And here, too, being a strong woman also means making a choice and commitment to give up your career and dedicate your time to raising your children. Australian kids spend most of the day in school (starts at 9am to 3pm with sports or extra lessons mostly in school grounds) and weekends are for extra lessons. Most women here have to hit the ground running once the baby is out of the uterus. If there are no grandparents around to help, they're on their own with the husband. Imagine doing all that yourself!

Wednesday, November 12, 2008

Meet The Parents time!

My best friend, happily ensconced in Surry Hills with his man, called me up last weekend and announced that they have decided to "make a commitment" together. On Sunday, I ventured out to Crown Street and met up with the happy couple to be about their "commitment ceremony". The venue: Spice I am and then later, Bird Cow Fish

OMG, so I sat through it all as they poured out their plans to me. My best friend is wearing a WHITE SUIT and his man will be wearing regular grooms' attire. Why should he nave to wear a white suit??? Does that mean that he's the woman? the bottom? That just sounds so wrong to me. Why the heck can't he wear a groom's suit as well???? After all, they're both men who want to marry. Trying to imitate a bride is just so wrong in this case.....

But then again- it's his wedding. And I'm just glad to be part of it, so I did a very grown-up thing: I kept my mouth shut.

Thursday, October 30, 2008

1 week in Singapore and one sad bitch.

Our wee little family took a break from life in Sydney to head for Singapore for a week. My husband was more than happy to take time off, because things are kinda quiet in the world of investment banking at the moment. We returned to crazy weather in the last few weeks. There was a hailstorm waiting for us when we got back, with snow falling just outside Sydney. This is late October, y'all! I've never seen this after nearly 2 decades in Australia.
We stayed at Orchard Road, we were able to spend some alone time shopping because we had a nanny come along with us for the trip.

This is my first time back since my time at INSEAD. It was a little bittersweet, seeing the place I spent as a virtual hermit, pursuing knowledge and higher learning- whilst forgetting all and everyone else in my life. (YES! I kid you not, I went weeks and weeks without waxing!!!)

Pics: Most of Orchard Road under renovation and runway rehearsal at Paragon, Orchard Road

Pics: View from the Qantas lounge at Sydney Airport and its interior.

Look at me now. A full time wife and mother with an unused MBA. I don't feel this burning need to go into the workforce just so that I can have a career. I feel secure enough about my intellect, my ability, my experience and my value.

I spoke to a woman, "L", who is married to one of my husband's relatives (whom I also know because he is an Interior Designer) recently. "L" was a successful photographer before she turned to IVF to get pregnant. She is in her 40's, her son is now 5. She is now back in the workforce but as a marketing consultant for a tile company. In her words "Thank God I am working, I would go crazy babysitting all day." WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH THIS WOMAN? It's not "babysitting" when it's your own kids, you sad bitch! So I told her exactly that- minus the sad bitch part. A "marketing executive"- I know what you are exactly, "L", because I used to be those architects that you salesgirls in mini skirts go to so that you can sell tiles/toilets/carpets/or/whatever/the/fuck/it/is/you/need/to/get/your/sales/quota to. But I think she knows what I think of her. Similarly, lots of other asian friends/older women think like this too.

I'd like to know what other SAHM have to say about women who want to be out in the workforce just so that they can be at work (it's not because of the money, and it doesn't matter what work they do, they just want to be at work) because being a SAHM is boring and brainless work.

How much is your so-called "career" worth, you sad bitches? Are any of you actually earning enough to justify the time away from your kids? Are any of you actually in managerial positions?

Tuesday, October 07, 2008


Just what is it that makes a person beautiful?

Is it an amazing fashion sense? Like Sarah Jessica Parker? A small woman with a somewhat equine face but really cute body, made famous by the clothes she wears?
Is it a perfect body but forgettable face vis a vis Gisele Bundchen?
Is it a symmetrical face? Think Alicia Keys?

What are the terms and conditions that make up beauty?

"Everyone is born with a pre-programmed understanding of what makes a person attractive.", Study from the University of Exeter.

A German study has shown that beauty is created by "averaging" the faces of a spectrum of people. The end product is a face that has wide appeal. This is purportedly the science behind the modelling industry. Each region or nation will have a type of face that appeals to them.

Beauty breaks down all ethnic barriers. Australia's ideal beauty would probably be a dark haired eurasian. BUT the advertising/modelling industry's idea of beauty that sells is: blonde, tanned aussie beach beauty- think Elle MacPherson. Think Sarah O'Hare.

Does beauty then also break down gender barriers? Look at Agyness Deyn, the current face of Dior Homme. Does the marketing work here? "If only she was my man, I'd steal her cologne." Why not? *cough* If only I was Lindsay Lohan. *cough*

Katya Shun is an up and coming androgynous supermodel. Double the appeal- cos she's also Eurasian. Woot! Represent!

What is amazing about these women is that they can look just as gorgeous as women as they can as men. Now, is there a male equivalent to what I'm talking about? Of course there is, but straight men are more anal about what makes another man beautiful, so I'd probably expect less anecdotal evidence.

Men. Beautiful androgynous men were ubiquitous in the 80's. Ahhhh. My favourite era.
The most beautiful of them all at that time? John Taylor of Duran Duran of course. OMFG, is there even a question? He no longer has the androgynous look these days, maybe because he has abandoned the eyeliner...... but he's aged well, like a fabulous Pinot (Noir because it's the best Pinot).

OK OK I know this was in the 90's, but remember the lead singer for Suede? Brett Anderson?
The embodiment of VainGloriousGlam?

So beautiful.
He was in Suede together with his girlfriend, Justine Frischmann (of Elastica- pic below) who is another androgynous beauty. (Brett is by far more beautiful than Justine.)

Today's emo and scene boys know it's all been done before and they're not breaking the mold.
That's the predicatment we face in our post-modern times isn't it? The word Neo- is a prefix for every art, fashion, architecture, design movement.

Art has been everywhere; now it has no where else to go.

Wednesday, August 13, 2008

Renaissance of thought

The thought process is a beautiful thing.

Information inputs, transformed by education, experience, intellect and instinct produces analysis and conclusions. Governed by an innovative process of delivery and a dash of six sigma........

That's what they pay management consultants the big $$$ for.

Wanna see my yoga mat?

Remember this article in Time magazine about Anwar Ibrahim in 1998?
Remember that and look at the man he has become now.

Remember what Dr.M did?
Remember that and take it with you into the voting booth next election.
Never again.
Humans forget too easily.
Human nature produces fear and inertia-

A word of advice: trust the process.

Friday, August 08, 2008

Growing pains of two varieties.

I've been visiting many a Malaysian political blog these days.
It's wonderful to see the fire in the eyes of these intelligent Malaysians- especially in those people who will one day rule the country. There is something to be said about leaders like Anwar Ibrahim, who endured incarceration, yet maintained his dignity, especially when facing international press. And Lim Guan Eng- who also faced his darkest moments when his wife and child visited him in jail, according to an interview with TV Smith.

I wonder how the present leaders would fare like under adversity? Who do you think looks like a spoilt, cushy, dough-boy type who would crumble into a snivelling mess? If anyone wants to avoid having this as your next leader, then you know where to put your vote.

Are there any Nelson Mandela's in our present leadership line-up?

To me, Malaysia is about ideals. About the usual vision, mission and values. And I think Malaysia has always been great at long-term strategies. NEP, OPP etc. you name it, they've got it. But every strategy needs to be reformulated as the needs of the stakeholders change. The people DO speak- you can hear them. Since that has been ignored, it's become only strategy for strategy's sake.

And unfortunately, the BN (I'm not about to blame one lone scapegoat for the sins of the entire political system- but some leaders are more to blame than others- Especially those who have had many years, yet little regrets- touche?) culls its bright young leaders for strategic fit and leaves those who specialize in ass-kissing politics. Sorry but true- you know it is.


Most newborn Malaysian babies get to have a shaved head. That's the adat in those neck of the woods. I admit I didn't do it because I er, just plain forgot. :P
The two grandmothers who are here have decided that it's not too late.
My home has turned into a cultural battleground.

So, both my mother (pro-shave camp) and mother in law (anti-shave camp) took hold of my little girl and had a discussion over tea:

MyMum: There's a reason why people have been doing it for generations......
M-I-L: These days, most people skip the tradition. There's no reason to do it lah!
MyMum: If you shave, the hair will grow back thicker.
M-I-L: No lah! How can the amount of hair just increase by making it shorter.
MyMum: The actual hair itself will be thicker because shorter hair takes less nourishment.
M-I-L: So, more nourishment will be received by each hair, is it?
MyMum: Ya, so each strand of hair will be thicker.
M-I-L: Ooooo, like that....

Sunday, August 03, 2008

Pak Lah, RPK, the old guy and the neanderthal

Oh man. There is not one ounce of hope or confidence left in our PM, huh?
He hasn't got it easy. We knew whoever took over after him was going to be a scapegoat no matter what.

Yes- he's weak.
As a leader, he has let his DPM run wild in Dr M's garden of dirty sordid fairy-tale scandals. And he can't just turn to Najib the Neanderthal and say "You're fired." because he needs to keep this alliance alive if he's going to have any support from the UMNO ass-embly.
That's disappointing from someone whom I can say is actually a good person.

At least he won't be hated. I just headed over to the old guy's blog. It's inching closer to 5 million hits (not that he needs to make any money out of it, after 30 years of screwing with our minds)- I read the comments section because I want to know who reads the drivel that is his opinion.
The seemingly educated comments were largely: "Wake up to yourself."
The seemingly uneducated comments were largely: blah "tokoh negara" blah blah "hidup Dr M"
And those that sounded educated but pro-Dr M were probably ingratiated/ related to him. Touche?
The old guy is actually a good human being, too, if I do say so myself. But he's stuck in a mental model that's outdated. And he's old. And stubborn.

I also headed over and saw what RPK's mission was: he's taking Najib down with him. Really? Promise? Pinky-swear?

That would be a service to the beautiful, prosperous land bursting with potential that once was Malaysia, now known as the laughing stock that is Bolehland.

No one wants to do the dirty work of taking the trash out, not even the PM.

Sleep. I need sleep.

I think I'm having hallucinations. I had a conversation with my mother in the kitchen without realizing no one was there. Eeek.

My little baby girl is not a great sleeper, unfortunately. :(

Tuesday, July 22, 2008

The Brain Drain

Not enough time to post- Hungry baby and hungry mummy on the loose!
It's true that BFing makes you hungry and thirsty all the time..... and it makes you look like you have Pamela Anderson's chest if you don't feed or get on the pump soon. Ah- nice.

Anyway, I looked through an old post about Malaysians and stereotypes.
Wow. Looked at the comments section and it looked like a MalaysiaKini opinions page.
Most people were talking about Malaysians who choose to migrate. Who are these Malaysians?

The comments are too long but I will post one of them here.

No brain leader said...

"Now if you followed speech about a new agenda to help bumis. So this is the way to create towering malays - just give them more handouts.

All talk was about helping, read enriching the malays. No one had the balls to talk about the Malaysian agenda. If this is what our future leaders spew, then I shed tears for my beloved country.

Much of so-called leakages of bumis allocation has not gone to other bumis but merely lost. Look at the ringgit depreciation, the loss of Proton, the debt of Perwaja, the bank write offs etc, and you get an idea where they have gone. The non-bumis benefit is marginal compared to the larger loses.

Just look at how many of the Menteri Besar and Chief Ministers reap profit from their position for personal gain, compared to few did not do it. They must be using the same pretext of some noble cause like NEP. But at the end the one benefiting is their closet cronies.

What left to Malaysians is the exorbitant car prices, high toll rate, no viable alternative public transport in cities, ever increasing water tariff etc. Who is suffering at the end? Isn't it the "rakyat" at large and bumis forming the largest portion?

Have they not considered why previous implementations failed? In fact one needs not look far to find the answers - CORRUPPTION and ABUSE of POWER leading to cronyism and nepotism.

A simple solution is to implement an independent judiciary, answerable to parliament and freedom of the press as a starter.

Instead, Umno is asking for more privileges. Who are the main beneficiaries? So long as Malaysia's resources are plentiful, the non-bumis as scapegoats, the use of religious fear factor works on the rakyat, Umno will continue to call the shot.

Unfortunately there is not enough resources to satisfy the greed of Umno, the rakyat will remain poorer while the rich get richer.

For non-bumis, their ultimate aim is going abroad. Those left behind, well, the left over will join the poor including the bumis in Malaysia. Thus denying Malaysia the skill and wealth of the emigrating Malaysians.

Don't forget the call for more help, enriching the malays are actually for Umno, selected few and cronies! Not all the malays!

Do read them carefully and not counting it as every malay or Malaysian! Because of this nature of speech don't count it as "for all malays" and a case for you to bombast the innocent malays!

With all the multibillions and hundreds of millions of ringgit contracts going to the Umno bumis and crony companies, with all the Approved Permits (APs) going to the bumis (almost), with all the banking licences going to the bumis (almost), with all the big Government-Linked Companies (GLCs) coming under the control of the bumis, with all the government jobs (almost) going to the bumis, with all the petrol stations, transport licenses going to the bumis, etc, etc.

Perhaps one reason that Umno Youth perceived that the bumis are not faring too well in the economic field is that the wealth that is now in their hands is not well shared out, and is concentrated in the hands of a small number of elite and crony bumis.

If you look at the number of government contracts going out to bumis is really discriminating against the non-malays.

Until now, I have not heard of one malay who has the courage to admit, that about 90% of the government projects and assistance that went to help the malays has gone to waste - huge squandering and wastage.

It is the reason why they are not being respected by other races.

That is their huge weakness. No matter how much monetary assistance you give to the malays, somehow or rather it doesn't improve their character and attitude towards work. It doesn't improve their knowledge on any business they are in.

Their business ethic is the lowest among Malaysians. Their wealth will never improve. Later down the road, they will be spending most of their money if not all on material gain rather than on building values, skills and knowledge.

That is why, 90% of the student scholarships, or 90% of the government projects goes to them, has gone to waste. They didn't take the opportunity to enhance their knowledge, skills but merely for material gain.

They have no confidence in themselves after so many years of independence. No confidence and faith in themselves to do their best and compete in the world. None at all.

Because most of the time, they spend their money and time on politics, and material gain. I would say malays place more importance on the form rather than on the substance.

Look at the amount of protocol they have to follow in their daily life. Most of it is not practical at all.

In short, we are stuck in medieval concept of balance of conflicting interest rather than those about moving forward to be become one.

So long as we are stuck in such medieval thinking, so long as we will be paralyzed by our fears and insecurities, and honestly second-rate as a nation."

Why can't the nation's leaders LISTEN? If I were a CEO I'd be heavily reliant on market surveys and customer feedback.
Why don't you have any opinion polls? Is it because you don't care what people think?

Or is it because you want to tell people what to think because you think people don't know how to think for themselves?
That last question is very typical of old-school politics in Malaysia.

That post was in the beginning of 2005. We're in mid 2008.
Anwar faces sodomy charges again.
It's all still the same old, same old again.

Wednesday, July 09, 2008

It's a GIRL!

Background: We decided that we did not want to know the gender of our baby- we would be happy with anything.

Being waaay overdue, I was checked in to be induced. 24 hours on, after much pain but minimal dilation, my Ob-Gyn decided that a c-section was the best way to go. The little princess was born with a very pink complexion for (the most part) asian parents, she has very long fingernails and loves to hold her hands together. BF has now been established.

We are all warm and fuzzy now.

Both grandmas are staying with us. The grandfathers will join us later, as there is a big-news important diplomatic event happening in Malaysia this week, so they have to be there.

Wednesday, July 02, 2008

A few months back, when travel was still possible, I visited KL while hubby was away in London..............

I spent some time with my feet up and did some furious shopping, stayed at my parents' home in the good old 50490 'hood for some rest and relaxation before my tummy got too huge.
As with all visits, I am amazed at how different KL looks and feels each time.

If you'll bear with me, please: I want to talk about 2 dinners that I attended while in KL. This is of particular interest because the people at dinner#1 are people who have considerable influence on the everyday lives of Malaysians. People at dinner#2 is maybe an example of how we begin to chip at these walls average Malaysians surround ourselves with.

Went to dinner with my parents and their friends at a place in KL frequented by a very middle age demographic. (Don't want to name names because Dad is a regular) A person/people at this dinner table very probably built and/or (depends on which building) own the building that your blogging ass is sitting in right this very moment, one is the MD of a listed holdings company, a former politician slash doctor/lawyer/dentist. All of them are very high profile people. People came up to greet and shake hands with the people at this table. (Including me! An engineer I was involved in a project with a few years ago came up to say hello.)

We talked animatedly about politics contrasted and compared politics in Australia and Malaysia. First, we agreed that all governments have corruption to varying degrees.
Second, the former politicians felt/feel like a slave to petty party politics- they felt it affected the direction of the nation TOO much. You could see the frustration in their face as they talked about it- but doubt that anyone put a gun to their head and threatened to kill them if they didn't toe the line, even if it was beyond the boundaries of common human decency.
Third the businessmen agreed that it was much harder to make any real money in transparent governments like Australia and the corruption and bureaucracy in Malaysia made them their fortune. That's true- we all know that every cent in every politician's allowance is transparent and accounted for in the very egalitarian political system in Australia.

Not an actual pic of the event above: just setting the scene.

I love dining with the older generation! I was happy that they included me and always spoke to me like an equal.


I went to The Gardens and met up for dinner with my old kaki from the 50490 'hood at the new avant-garde Alexis bistro. (You see, this time, I am naming names of places because the visual setting is important for the point which I will get to)

This time, yet again, the no-good (I jest, I jest!) guys left early because "takut bini". Heh heh I knew it. But the husbands of my friends were more than happy for them to stay out as long as they liked. (Well, some of those husbands are much older Dato's who are seldom at home, some still at work, one of them was at home with their kids- Whoa! That's because he's Mat Salleh.)

Anyway, I look around the room and this table stood out amongst the usual diners in these establishments: obvious foodie bloggers, table of all-female label whores/wanna-be's and dating couples. There was a table of guys and gals resplendent in their Hong Kong style trendiness. They spoke only cantonese. One of those guys, with his dyed hair and J-pop star wardrobe, was REALLY gorgeous. Around 6ft, nice body-muscular & not skinny, nice face. He was only two tables away. We could smell the Calvin Klein perfume on him.

Some visual cues of such HK chinese and Japanese hotties to help:
We all agreed and had a group-perve. One of us at the table, "J", was 100% chinese, but I've never heard her speak chinese maybe because she couldn't/wouldn't. I'm not exactly sure why. But get this: she was absolutely disgusted with the guy, the whole group. WHY?

J: I don't care if he's Brad Pitt under all that designer gear, cologne, hair colour and gel- he's still "Ah-Beng" garbage. Just look at the rest of his friends.
Us: *shock* I can see the stereotype, but it's quite possible that he's a person underneath all that.
J: I think I know what kind of a person that is: he likes imported cars, he loves canto-pop, he's chinese educated. Trash.
Us: *shock* Where did all this hatred come from?
J: I've been surrounded by it all my life. I hate it when people lump me into the same group as these people just because I'm chinese.
Us: "People"? What do you mean by that? We've been friends for many years and we've never thought of you in that way.
J: That's because I have always tried very hard not to be identified as too chinese.
*J gives us a few examples throughout the years that we've known her- and we nod and listen mostly because we feel some sympathy for her*

Can you imagine what it's like for "J", who has had to deny an integral part of who she is for fear of being racially stereotyped? I have a feeling some people actually know, because, come to think of it, I know lots of chinese friends who insist on being 100% westernized, dating outside their race and speaking only malay and english. It's scary.

Tuesday, July 01, 2008

Some critical media advice for Dato Seri Anwar Ibrahim

Last night, on Bloomberg Asia, we (in Australia) saw Anwar Ibrahim being interviewed live over the phone by a journalist (probably broadcast from a studio in Hong Kong or Singapore) regarding the new sodomy charges against him. A foreigner would be at best, puzzled by the verbal barrage that came from the other side, mentioning the "IGP" a couple of times, the "Mongolian model case" once. He talked of "they" and "them" (who are these people? My personal guess is the UMNO people-not the top dogs but those who are in the succession plan are shitting in their pants because they're scared of Anwar taking power) who continue their crusade against him. The journalist did not question what he meant- because it sounded like a lot of incoherent verbal diarrhoea.

If I were in Dato Anwar's esteemed position, I would choose my words carefully for the audience- you are not being interviewed by a Malaysian journalist from a local paper. No one outside Malaysia knows what an "IGP" (Inspector General of Police) is. No one outside Malaysia knows what the "Mongolian model case" is all about.

That invaluable media opportunity to confirm his political position to the world unfortunately didn't do much to help his case at all. Time to get a little bit more media savvy, Dato Seri.

Not all media are like the monkey see-monkey do three ringed circus performers (RTM, TV3, TheStar, NST, etc etc) that you get in mainstream media in Malaysia.

Monday, March 10, 2008

A New Malaysia for New Malaysians.

Will the current goverment will choose to do one of the following?
  • Take a leaf out of good old Dr. M's old-school book: starve those opposition states. To the opposition leaders who won, dangle enough money in front of them so that they'll switch. (Opposition state Sabah's top Ministers arrested in the late 80's.) Discredit them, foil their plans above all- who cares about the rakyat who voted for them, right?
  • Take responsibility and take steps to regain the trust and votes from the Chinese and Indian community. Let's be honest, this is the big fat reason why there was such a blow. What Chinese and Indian voters want today is very different from 10 years ago. Ways to reach voters are different. Even the little worm, Khairy, has a website.
Dr. M now calls for Pak Lah to step down, says he should have chosen Najib instead. So, a potential PM and first lady who are collaborators,"on the take" and who has never apologised for threatening to "bathe the keris in Chinese blood" (in 1987) is a better option?
Ummm, I have a better idea: why don't we all go back to hunting animals and living in caves?

The old guy's son, who is now an MP (and who knows- in the running for being the future PM one day) also calls for Pak Lah to resign. That's a sure-fire way to get the little worm, Khairy out of the equation in UMNO.

Dr. M's daughter, Marina Mahathir is someone whose voice is respected by many of the new Malaysians who want a new Malaysia. I've followed her writings from the newspapers when she had just returned to Malaysia. She is in a difficult situation- family or personal beliefs? She has done her best and she has my respect. I've chosen to remain overseas and write under a pseudonym.

I saw Dr. M's Malaysia as a sinking ship that I had to abandon.

I left because I lost hope in having the life that I wanted to live in Malaysia. I wanted to live in a place where my kids can play safely and where I can have peace of mind. I wanted a place that would recognize and reward people who worked hard.

I never thought that I would live to see election results like this. I'm excited for all the possibilities that may happen in Malaysia. There is so much work to do.

Pak Lah, to his credit, has done a decent job of cleaning out the old-school corrupted cronies of Dr.M.
The best thing he will do as PM is to handle the changes that Malaysia is currently undergoing. History (NOT propaganda) will look upon him with more kindness and respect than the old guy.

Sunday, March 09, 2008

Wow. I'm floored by the 2008 Malaysian General Election results

So the people have spoken. I honestly never thought I'd see the day. And to think I wanted to spend my nice Sunday night with my laptop writing about how I spent my last weekend at the 2008 Gay and Lesbian Mardi Gras party. (The event was a sea of love, acceptance and diversity, thanks very much for asking, sweetie.)

This is of particular interest to me because a person/s(?) related to me were/was up for elections in seat/s in a state that was not lost to the opposition. Post results: weary but still there to fight another day. I'm hazy I know, but those who know will just click into "A-HA!!!!" mode. You know who you are.

Here's what I have to say:

  • Congratulations to the new MP of Jelutong in Penang, Mr. Jeff Ooi!!! A person worthy enough to have the honour of representing the Malaysian people. You and your electric guitar ROCK! The triumvirate were utter rock stars, captured by TV Smith.
  • I was pleased to see that voters in KL were up in the 70+%. But in some towns in other states and even in rural areas, the turnout was incredibly poor. Less than half in some areas. Don't these people know how much their votes count? What is the reason: apathy? Or just plain laziness? WAKE UP AND MAKE VOTING COMPULSORY, MALAYSIA!
  • A televised moderated debate about issues concerning Malaysians should be televised on ASTRO as well as RTM. (That'll reach those people who can't get their arse off the couch on Election Day.) This way, voters can see the bigger picture on how they can have a say in the future of Malaysia. This will help voters look beyond micro-issues.

Thursday, January 31, 2008

still a fag hag?............. HELL YEAH!

I may be knocked up and MBA'd, but I still have my fag-hagness inside somewhere.

(Argh I have to do this post in bullet points again. I went through the past year and a half in bullet points. That is no joke, I kid you not. I actually did everything in bullet points. Now I can't SHAKE THE DISEASE. Oooo. Did I just do an 80's reference again- that's one of Depeche Mode's best songs ever.)

In one episode, he goes on a blind date with another gay male model, Rodrigo de Carli. (Also drop dead gorgeous.) They were set up by a friend who wanted to double date.

On the date, they shared a hotdog.

Damn, this eye candy is just TOO HOT! *Implosion fans herself*
Wooohoo. OMG.

Mardi Gras
is just around the corner, I'll be sporting a baby bump by then. Gay men will just have to look enviously upon THIS image of fertility, which is God's way of telling them "You can't have it all, mate."

  • My best friend, "Will" (as in our "Will & Grace" nicknames, after the TV sitcom) is happily coccooned in coupledom, having moved in with his lover, he hardly has time for his angsty pregnant fag hag friend anymore.... he now has a whole new circle of friends who mainly consist of other happily coccooned gay couples in bloody Surry bloody Hills. Sigh. I miss him and hanging out with this gorgeous male specimen (who also happened to model a bit when he was younger. He mainly modelled in Asia, where they love blue eyes and blond hair. Yep, he got a lot of asian-girlie-love in those days. He was also BIG IN JAPAN. OMG, another 80's anthem by Alphaville. I swear this is NOT intentional.)
  • YAOI. (Short for "Yamete, Oshiriga Itai" or "Stop, my ass hurts") Japanese manga or anime about homosexual relationships...... if you're a fan of idealised images of gay love, then about 80% of this genre will appeal to you. Main characters are typically the manly, stoic, square-jawed "seme" (the "top") and the weepy, slender, doe-eyed "uke" (the "bottom"). Most yaoi fangirls swallow all this shit up.
It's good to note that this is changing and
starting to cater to more "fujoshi" or fag-hags. LOL.
A few examples:

Homosexual relationships are about two MEN who love and desire each other.

Men who could have chosen a woman if they wanted a man just because he resembled a woman..... actually, I nicked that line off one of the mangas on the right.

Right. That's all for now on this variety channel. Tune in again next time!